The Sexism by Family and Friends After Separation

Have you ever found yourself being questioned by family about your personal choices after separation or divorce? Criticised for not making the ‘right’ choices or being called selfish?

For anyone who has gone through a separation you very quickly are forced to face the reality of increased expenses, tough decisions needing to be made quickly around where you will live, and feeling pulled in every direction to the point you no longer have time for you.

To top this all off we seem to face a barrage of sexism from family and sometimes even friends around the choices we have made.

Creating Time For You

Part of this equation is solved by choosing the right location to live in, talked about above. However, it is also vital that you create time in every day just for you. If you are living in a state of anxiety or stress we know from scientific research that your IQ will fall within just 10 minutes impacting...

The Sexism by Family and Friends After Separation

Have you ever found yourself being questioned by family about your personal choices after separation or divorce? Criticised for not making the ‘right’ choices or being called selfish?

For anyone who has gone through a separation you very quickly are forced to face the reality of increased expenses, tough decisions needing to be made quickly around where you will live, and feeling pulled in every direction to the point you no longer have time for you.

To top this all off we seem to face a barrage of sexism from family and sometimes even friends around the choices we have made.

Where You Live

For those with children, this can be one of the toughest decisions. There is in so many of my clients in the past been this desire to continue to provide the children with a home they are used to while the husband goes off and rents a small apartment. Afterall that is the accepted social norm. By why is it that the...

The Sexism by Family and Friends After Separation

Have you ever found yourself being questioned by family about your personal choices after separation or divorce? Criticised for not making the ‘right’ choices or being called selfish?

For anyone who has gone through a separation you very quickly are forced to face the reality of increased expenses, tough decisions needing to be made quickly around where you will live, and feeling pulled in every direction to the point you no longer have time for you.

To top this all off we seem to face a barrage of sexism from family and sometimes even friends around the choices we have made.

Expenses Sky Rocket

In the immediate aftermath of a separation, there is the inevitable skyrocketing of expenses. Others may criticise you for not managing your finances, not appreciate that you have to buy furniture, need to cleanse yourself of old items with memories attached for your own mental health, or simply the...

Every day I meet small business owners who have lost their mojo and the reason why they started a business in the first place. The passion has faded, into nothing. I look around their retail store or perhaps it is their website and wonder do they even care anymore?

Far too often they resent their business. They started with plans for that perfect work-life balance. Only to have been sucked into the small business vortex where you could work 24/7 and never get everything done as the pressure of weight on their shoulders almost becomes unbearable.

So how did the dream become a nightmare?

There is one common theme amongst all the business owners in this situation that I meet. They have always worked on business planning first, and never put their personal lives and lifestyle as the priority. The way small business owners for decades have been told to succeed is to spend countless hours building an impressive business plan, implementing and then measuring.

What...

With the start of every new year, your birthday or perhaps some other key date you have been no doubt tried to put your best foot forward and set ambitious goals, but it never takes too long for old habits to creep back in. Particularly when it comes to money matters. Overhauling your spending habits is harder to do today than ever before thanks to new technologies like pay pass, pay wave and tap and go; they make it easier than ever to spend without consequences. At least until you see your bank balance.

Being jolted into reality by a scary credit card debt or a meager bank balance can be like going out for a night on the town and waking up the next morning with a throbbing headache. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but in the harsh light of day, it’s not so clear. If you’ve been in this situation and want to take control of your financial health, it might be time for a financial detox.

This is my step by step guide to a financial detox

Step 1: Pay your...

In life, we often get so caught up in today and forget about where we want to be in our future. It is also easy to end up doing things that force us to spend time in places that we don't want to be, with people we perhaps don't even really like.

It is important to make time to take simple steps to declutter our lives and there is no better time to do this than now.

Decluttering your life is about giving yourself permission to focus on the things that matter to you the most.

Press Pause

The first step is to put time into your diary every week that is time just for you.  This is your opportunity to spend the time to reset, put the week that has been in context and press pause even if you only have 10 minutes to spare. This time should be used to do something that replenishes and nurtures you. Whether it be meditating, taking a blanket down to the park and reading a book or simply going for a walk.

Set Your Intention

Whether on a daily, weekly or monthly basis...

Whether you are in a long-term relationship or falling head over heels for someone new money is always at risk of being the deal breaker especially when the object of your affections comes with a messy past.

You might already be investing or saving for a house, while the man or woman of your dreams is still carrying around thousands of dollars of credit card debt.

It's often a factor why people remain single. Because new partners aren't willing to take on someone who has got that debt or isn't financially responsible.

In the RSVP's 2014 Date of the Nation report. It found single Australians top five non-negotiable when they're looking to get into a serious relationship include financial instability as a major turn-off.

A mismatch on the money front doesn't have to spell doom for your relationship, as long as it's not swept under the carpet.

Start with a small talk
If you're thinking there might be a future with someone it is time to open up the conversation about what your goals are,...